HellaHole Psychology: Mothers, Teenagers, Parents DO's and DONT's

Mother's. They are the ones go gave us a chance to live. They are the ones who takes care of us when we were little.. until we're old enough to fly out of our nest's. They give us LOVE and CARE that can fill the ENTIRE universe, and we all know that the universe HAS NO END, well its the same with our mothers LOVE and CARE for their children ^ _ ^

Okay, i know sometimes we have our ups and downs with our mother, but it doesn't mean we HATE them, we just sometimes misunderstood THEM, like THEY misunderstood US.

I for one, have a very hyperactive mother.

MY HYPERACTIVE MOTHER

For one thing, she doesnt like it when i frown. She ALWAYS thinks something is wrong when im NOT smiling. But is that really a big deal? sometimes, people just have those days where they wake up on the wrong side of the bed. It doesnt really mean that we have a problem, or we don't like something but we take it out on our mother's... No.. its NOTHING like that!

Its just sometimes, Mom's have this BAD ATTITUDE radar coming from her head, and she thinks that something is DEFINITELY WRONG when we act differently. And she just cant help but worry, since she loves us.

But that doesnt mean that it isnt annoying sometimes.

Sure, Mom's care and want to help their children when they're in need and when they are having a sort of problem, but also, some Mom's need to know that sometimes, letting a kid stay alone is the best remedy at certain times.

I should know, since I am a teenage girl, and teenage girls have these sort of... "I-need-to-be-alone" type of days, but My mom thinks that those kind of rebellious phases are not too much to handle, so she handles them with poking in to my business, and getting angry at my mood swings at some occasions.

Which is a way to show that she cares, sure, but as i said, giving your child some SPACE and ALONE time, might not be such a bad idea.

We are going through a phase of becoming adults. Each kid has their own way of walking towards that path. And we have to do ALOT of thinking and all to get through some tough spots.

***But i am NOT saying that when your kid is doing drugs and those weird rebellious nonsense and you're actually taking my advice at THIS CRITICAL TIME, then YOU ARE WRONG!

This type of 'ALONE TIME' is usually best when you KNOW your kid isnt doing those things. But if they are, then please... that is not where this advice is useful.***



TOUGH SPOTS

We, kids, have these sort of times when we are in some tough situations, or TOUGH SPOTS.

Usually, when we do alot of thinking, or we are in a panic state, and we dont know who to turn to...
Its usually the best if we turn to our mothers, or out PARENTS. because they are filled with experience and knowledge that might help. Usually, mothers can be a bit TOO emotional in handling some tight spots, but they mean well, so it isnt a bad idea to actually see through what they have to say before you decide not to go with that idea.

But some kids might NOT want to turn to their parents because.... well its an unexplainable feeling i guess.
Sometime i get it too,...
the fact that if i go to my Mom for help, it might not be a good move sometimes..

But afterwards.. i'm actually GLAD i came to my mom for help, because even if your mom gets on your nerve sometimes and likes to nag alot, its only because she WANTS us to be a great kid! someone who will be successful and amazing in the future! So please dont get it the wrong way okay?

***Even though sometimes, it can be about something O-SO simple, it doesnt mean she picks on you okay? Its just because she CARES :)***


Now, lets see... what else can i explain... OH I KNOW!!

TEENAGE REBELLION

Ah, yeah... this is a phase that some parents, MOSTLY MOTHERS, fear the most. TEENAGE REBELLION
its a critical time when the children grow into a certain age where He/She will feel the longing for BELONGING. and making their existence noticeable to the world.

And sometimes, if we feel too pressured at this age, we can get a bit.. EMOTIONAL.
For one thing, we put up with stuff that our parents make us go through, it might be GOOD for us, but we DONT like it.
its like we're blinded by the fact that we HATE it, that we dont realize that the little things their making us DO is something USEFUL and NECESSARY for the FUTURE!

But thats just it, This phase makes us do things we dont usually want to do, but it makes us have this sense of INDIVIDUALITY in our self that we feel good about.

Although its NOT ALWAYS the good stuff... this is actually a phase where teenagers might get into those things in the world thats not good for them. Like Drugs for instance.

Well, we might not be well in our heads, so we try those things out of curiosity at first... but the fact that it has some sort of RESTRAIN LOOSENING feeling... we keep doing it. which is NOT A GOOD THING.

***Hello people! we NEED to realize that somethings that FEEL good to is isnt ALWAYS super good FOR us!***
((Like how we like to eat candy because its sweet, but eating too much will make us have cavities))

So for ALL the teenagers who are in this, i know your like

"YOU CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO MAN!"
"GAH, SHUT UP B****, your NOT the boss of ME!"
"THIS IS MY LIFE! DONT SCREW MY LIFE!"
"AAAAAHH! I KNOW WHAT IM DOING! DONT BE SUCH A PUSHOVER!"

but exactly, by doing those BAD THINGS, you DONT know what your doing.. your NOT in your RIGHT MIND ... and that is BECAUSE YOUR DOING THOSE THINGS.

You're just going thru that phase when teenagers think they KNOW EVERYTHING and they show some Badass attitude that  makes them feel like their that the TOP OF THEIR GAME.

wow... that was a MOUTHFULL! XDDDD

sorry, but im just saying what i think is right. and if you think that your a TEENAGER with a REBELLIOUS act upon you, then you might want to do these things right here:

There are some things i found on the net for those REBELLIOUS times : AWESOME SITE I FOUND

So, teenagers have these things because either they are trying to

• Discovering their identities - Teenagers are at a point in their lives when they are trying to figure out who they are as a person, their likes/dislikes and what they will be doing for the rest of their lives. They use this time to test and try out many identities until they find one they are most comfortable with. 
• Independence - These years are a constant struggle between dependence and independence. Rebellious teens want to have total independence and prove to you that they can do things themselves. At the same time, they are overwhelmed and still desire parental protection. 
• Hormonal changes - As teenagers bodies are changing, hormone fluctuations can bring about all sorts of mood changes. 
• Peer pressure - Some forms of rebellion can begin with pressure from peers to join in various destructive behaviors.

So MY tip on these TEENAGE rebelion things are probably 

• Look at the mirror and see your self... Any piercings? Cuts that you did to yourself? Heellllaaa lotta make up? well look again and ask yourself.. "Is this what i REALLY am?"  and when i mean LOOK, i mean LOOK DEEEEEEPPP within you, dont be someone your NOT, and dont be too caught up in this REBELIOUS phase that You'll lose most of the things you care about in the process, like your DIGNITY and your TRUE IDENTITY.
• Try and ask an ADULT or someone OLDER who you can trust your whole life story to, a school psychiatrist or maybe a teacher that you trust, or even better, your PARENTS. because they WERE teenagers once too... i bet they have some tips and helpful stuff to get you out of the MESS your into right now, since you never really know what someone is thinking until you ASK ;)
• Think it LOOONNNGGG and HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRDDDDDDDDDDD on what are things that are GOOD for you, and things that are HELLAAAA HOLLLEEEE BAAADDD for YOU.  

***(( Sometimes coming up and opening up to someone is a REAAALLLYY hard thing to do right? then why not just TRY and get some tips on the NET on what you should do, and THINK. Thinking things through usually solve the problem.. i got out of ALOT OF MESSES by THINKING what i should do, that doesnt inflict BAD energy or BAD influence to anyone else that i encounter. But hey, dont take MY word for it... its YOUR LIFE, so THINK STRAIGHT! and if you have a friend that ABSOLUTELY influences you in some things that you think is BAD, then DONT LISTEN, because theyre going through the EXACT same things YOU are, But if they continue on like that, YOU WONT, because you THINK this through! ))***

• Last and the very least, USUALLY internet and communication devices might get the better of you yknow? well i know that  I  cant ERASE the internet or the cellphones because their intentions are GOOD, its just sometimes people think of them and USE them for bad purposes, SO TRY TO NOT GET WRAPPED UP IN THE BAD THINGS of the globalization era, and try to think of the POSITIVE side!  Dont be a Pessimist, be an OPTIMIST!

Well, i think thats enough MUMBO JUMBO out of me right? 

since im all out of stuff to type anyway XD

So HellaHole OUT! XDD Piece y'all!